When you are on a pole, the other is always present. If you are seeing a side, do not worry, the other is there. It is just one side, but that side is hiding another. In mind, the joy that is known is the opposite of sadness; the love that is known, which is a form of sentimental pleasure, emotional is not real love, it is just the opposite of disappointment, pain, anger, hatred. All this is in the realm of mind, all this is in the contents of the mind, which are beliefs.
The freedom of not being tied, garbled, mixed, confused with the mind, that’s what we call being disidentified - disidentified from history, beliefs, thoughts, satisfaction and dissatisfaction, from the pleasure and pain that the other or the world (which are only images) causes me.
There is no formula to keep disidentified, it is something that you need to find within you. You need to know when that you are in this tangled position with the mind, which means all this images content, thoughts and beliefs, and when you do not lump together, not gets confused with it. What I can tell you, although I cannot give you a formula for this, is that the aroma is completely different, and the taste too. The aroma of being identified is one, and, disidentified, it is another.
Identified means being tangled with the mind and its contents, it means being circumstantially, sentimentally and emotionally involved, both at the level of thought and behavior. The flavor and aroma are very peculiar when you are not identified. The flavor and aroma are freedom; freedom of history, of beliefs. Beliefs such as: "how beautiful is my daughter!"; "How can it be? I do everything for him but he doesn’t see it"; "How can it be? I give everything to her and she is not thankful"; "How could she likes him more than me." Beliefs like above...
Thus, the taste and flavor are very typical and well known, when this identification is present. When that is not present, then the freedom of beliefs gets clear, no need this worry about what the other thinks or expects from you, or what you expect from them.
The disidentification has no history and has not you (you, with this image you have of yourself when is tangled, identified). When disidentified, there is no you, "someone" or others. Disidentified, you are not a person, a relative, nor a friend, you are not a neighbor, a child, not a mother, nor father ... disidentified, you are Freedom! Disidentified, you have no traces of judgments and opinions, therefore, there are no conclusions. Disidentified, there is no conflict; no pleasure nor pain. It is not your story, it is just a story. Is that clear, this way? Disidentified, there is no person, thereby, there is no personal frustration, no personal disappointment. Disidentified, there is no "someone" there waiting for something from the other next to you. Disidentified, any thought about this supposed "you" doesn’t even matter, because whatever the thought still believes that exists is still beliefs, but not beliefs of this "disidentified" one.
This is the aroma and flavor. Living like this is possible, but not for this self-image that you feed as a mother, husband, son, boyfriend, girlfriend ... live like this is possible, but this does not feed pleasure. So, this is not possible for that illusive system dismembered by thought, which we call "I", "me", "person".
Living like this is life in the joy of the Being, but it is a joy that has no opposite. It is not the result of pleasurable excitement that thought creates, on this euphoria that it calls happiness. It is not that, it is another joy. It is a joy without cause, without reason and without anyone; then, it is only Joy. It is a joy with a definite article up front: "the Joy." If the Joy is present, then the smell, flavor and taste are different.
Say something from within and from that unlimited Presence that You are. That speech will be born from this natural state, free from this mixed salad of emotions, sensation, feelings, images, stories, concepts, differences ... Say something now from this "place" where the person is not. Whatever is said, will be told from this Silence, this Emptiness, this Presence, which is pure Joy, a Joy that is not smile, is not "little jump", "small bounce", which is not personal fulfillment, it is not personal satisfaction, not personal pleasure. Tell me from this disidentification ... look, smile, cry, eat, play and flirting from there. From there, everything is normal, everything is natural.
In the Natural State there is no sadness, because sadness comes from images, imaginations, conditionings of an "I" hurt, an "I" insulted, an "I" offended, an "I" annoyed, an " I "disappointed, of an "I" frustrated. All these adjectives are attached to this imagined subject that thought has created and given the name of "me", "I".
As long as there is the machine (body), there may be emotions. Anger, for example, is a neurological thing, physiological, an action of self-protection of the machine, that has nothing to do with you; It is the natural state operating in the machine. If you ask a doctor, he will say that an electric shock produces anger. You take an electric shock and it affects your central nervous system, which produces an emotion on the machine, a rage without history. The feeling needs history, but emotion not. You should not confuse emotion with feeling.
Anger is an emotion but the anger that the ego knows is a feeling; a feeling that appropriates the machine. We’re used to say that this anger is an emotion, but it is another feeling, for it needs imagination. Anger is a very dangerous expression when there’s a content story. Thus, it is directed to some purpose. So, the anger on the "I" is a very dangerous thing, because it will tell a story, and the story is: "Kill it", "kill him", "destroy what causes you anger." However, the anger itself is a beautiful thing. A nerve irritation is angry, but when a story creates a feeling that creates a nerve irritation, which is the anger, this illusion of a present "I" is driven to kill or destroy what caused its anger. The anger will not do that.
Participant: Is it the same about fear, too?
Master Gualberto: This goes for fear too, because fear is an emotion, but fear as the ego knows is not an emotion, it is an illusion created by this sense of imagination that thought produces. So, fear in the ego is pure imagination at 99.9% of the time. A very real fear only for the ego has no truth at all.
There is a real fear, as an emotion before a danger, when the body protects itself using defense mechanisms. An object comes towards your eyes and they close for fear. An escape movement, a getaway. Fear can make the legs go out running or become freezed, depending on how the machine react to a threat, but this is a natural fear. However, there is a fear created by thought, by imagination; a fear with history. It is the fear of elevator ride, the fear of heights, airplane, closed places, to marry, to relate, public speaking, and so on ... All this is pure ego! All these are images that create this so-called fear.
Don’t you see the most absurd thing that is the fear of death? You have to imagine a lot to be afraid of death, have to make a very big effort. Right now no one was afraid of death, but when I said "fear of death" you have started asking for yourselves: "am I afraid of death?". You have to wonder to know if you do so. It is only those who have time to think that can imagine and fear death.
When death comes, it is instantaneous, nobody fears it, there are no room for the fear of death, it is a fulminant thing. Now, if someone says: "You are dying", the mind will build a post-mortem and will create a fear. But the fear of death is an absurd thing, like these fears of lifter, height, etc. All imagination!
We are still talking about the identification with the contents of the mind, which has this aroma and this very specific flavor. When there is this, there is no such freedom. In this disidentification, this freedom, any emotion is possible, but without a story, it is natural. Anger can be something like that, fear can be something like that ... but you can count on the fingers what would be an emotion in the natural state. However, you cannot count on the fingers what means feelings and emotions for this illusion of a present identity, which is this belief of being someone, this "me", this "self", this ego.
That is why when you are before the Sage, before the Guru, in the Presence, you do not see this wave, you do not see this sea full of waves of emotions, feelings, sensations. You do not see these chaotic reactions. You see emotions, but you do not see this chaotic thing. This chaotic thing is a superficial thing, has no depth at all, it is not real, it is something created by thought.
The ego lives in this coming and going of joy, sorrow and pain. With extraordinary speed, goes from joy to sadness, from sadness to anger, anger to fear, from fear to despair, from despair to anxiety, anxiety to the courage, from the courage to dare ...Isn't it quite like this?
Identified with the ego, everything is circumstantial. The sense of a "self" moves circumstantially: a compliment lets you cheerful; a mean comment lets you sad, angry, offended or willing to kill, because, besides anger, the desire to kill the one who hurt you comes.In fact, it is all happening within there, there is nothing going on out there. It is all within that same content, which is the content of the mind. The mind provoking itself - being provoked and reacting to provocation - seeking for guilty and living all these dramas. It is a hopeless case, no salvation. The ego is a miserable state of a useless complexity.
*Transcribed from a presential meeting in the city of Fortaleza at May 2016 Online meetings every Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 10PM (in Brazil) download the Paltalk app and participate.