Your fear of not being pleased by others encourages you to try to please everybody, reinforced by the illusion of being someone leading life. You want to please the world and you want the world to please you, you want the world to give you a satisfactory, happy, agreeable, fulfilling response. You feel obliged to give something to the world in order to have all that in return. That is an imaginary self-imposition of a false identity you believe to be, that is internally leading all this to pursue a promising future and running away from everything bad, but I tell you: this is not true.
The hardest thing is not to please others, but rather to be Happy within Yourself, which means not being hurt, not being resented, not producing suffering. Then, your concern to please the world around you is not difficult to achieve. The hardest part is to believe the world will make you happy since you do everything for others “to be happy.”
What I am saying is that you try to lead, to control, so that everything is fine in the end, but it is already wrong at the beginning since you are not investigating this clearly. You even find easy to believe you can make others happy, but I consider the most difficult part to accept you can and need to be happy and that this comes first, above all.
First, you are at Peace, in Freedom, in Pure Intelligence, Consciousness, in Truth, in Love... First This, then that. If This is settled internally in the first place, the world will be happy, since there will be "no one" to afflict you, to frighten you, to make you sad. In other words, first, you Realize God, who is this Mystery, later you share that Freedom, Joy and Happiness with the world.
What I have found out in this Awakening is that, when This is already established internally, there is no world anymore, the world is not your business anymore for you to take care of it, that is, others are not your responsibility. Now, you know there are no "others," the "world" does not exist, and there is nothing and no one in control.
Live in Meditation! Stop guiding, leading, controlling; stop claiming and asserting yourself, moment by moment, as "someone" who knows, who can and should do things so that nothing goes wrong. Your whole experience will be just a “human being” experience if you keep trying to get somewhere, to reach some point, to solve a matter, to fix someone and yourself, to adjust a given situation so that you feel good while seeking control of the experience, rushing to see the results you expect to have, and not what Life has and can manifest.
You are not a “human being,” as a horse is not an “animal being,” as a fish is not an “aquatic being.” In Existence, everything is Being, is Divine! You were not born to be a “human being,” as a fish was not born to be an “aquatic being,” as a horse was not born to be an “animal being.” Every expression of Existence comes from this Consciousness. Everything was born to be God since everything is God as Being! So, you will have a hard time to love Yourself if you keep striving to gain or to avoid, to obtain or to abandon things, seeing the world through ideas, concepts, beliefs, projects, dreams, desires as well as through these cares, burdens, hurries and various forms of frightening imagination you carry. It is so because your behavior will always be of someone who is not ready for the Mystery, the Miracle, the Happiness of the Pure Being. Life is Pure Being!
If your concern is to please the world and yourself or to please the world in order to please yourself, or even to get away from the world to escape from pain, your viewpoint concerns a hostile world, an unfair life, and there is just one thing involved in this: the mind, the thoughts distorting Reality. You are excessively thinking, looking forward and backward, “holding the steering wheel firmly,” paying close attention to not “undergo an accident,” “choosing the speed” and “knowing where you are going to,” because you are the one in control.
Soon this body will fall, it will lie down, without breathing – everyone in this room will have to go through this, and for some of you this may happen sooner than to others. When that happens and you have to go through the portal, you will find out the only important thing is What we are talking about here. Everything stays there, exactly where it is. Everything is left behind, so relax. Get out of the steering wheel and let it all go, before everything leaves you.
Discover the Beauty of this Magic, of living in your Natural State of Being, of Meditation – the complete absence of control. That is Meditation: stop this illusion of trying to guide, to control and to lead whatever experience.
Some people have not quite understood what this Natural State is, which they call Enlightenment. Some people want to achieve Happiness by "Enlightening themselves.” However, Enlightenment is not a process for you to be better or happier than you are now. Enlightenment is the collapse, the crumbling away of untruth; it is to see through that facade of hypocrisy, illusion and flights of fancy thought creates, What is beyond all this. Enlightenment is seeing this whole facade is no more than what, in your mind, you always imagined to be the truth of "your life," the illusion of "your life."
I will end now by saying what I consider to be your current and ever present main difficulty and this is what you need to overcome: the difficulty to open to Yourself, to Love Yourself. Never interpret this statement the way it has been repeated in several speeches, books and phrases. See that Loving Yourself is to not consent to the illusion, to this idea you are doing everything, controlling everything. This “I Am,” that You are, is the greatest Wonder! Keep the Presence of that “I am” pretty alive internally. God is Something unforgettable…. He cannot be forgotten!