The question here is: "How to get rid of jealousy and insecurity"?The presence of jealousy is the presence of someone involved in a relation, where self-image is present. The idea that the other is there, based on the belief that you are here, with your expectations, hopes, desires, waiting for something from him or her, the idea of being present as someone, in this context of relations, is the basis of jealousy. Unless you comprehend this, unless this becomes clear to you, everything will remain the same. Comprehending the truth about yourself is eliminating the illusion of someone in this dependency.
Your problem is not because the other is the way they are; your problem is because you have an idea of yourself, a mental picture, a representation of what life should be for you, of how the world should happen for you. Unless you free yourself from this self-image, fear will be present; and fear has many forms of expression, one of them being insecurity in relations. This is present because we lack the Truth of Freedom.
There is something very important here to be comprehended. We are lacking Freedom. There is no Freedom! We don't have inner space, inside ourselves, for this Freedom; and the absence of this Freedom is the presence of contraction, of fear. When there is Freedom, we have, in Freedom, the possibility of the presence of Love. Wherever there is some form of dependence, of lack, of projection, of pleasure, of fulfillment and satisfaction in the relation with the other, what is present is the absence of Freedom, not the presence of Love.
Love is not present in possession, in control, in envy, in suspicion, in dependency, in jealousy. Love is present when Truth is present, and Truth is the presence of Freedom. Without Freedom, we do not have Truth, there is no way for Real Love to happen. One thing we do not comprehend, that is not yet clear for most people, is that this sense of person is an illusion.
By freeing yourself from the illusion of the person, by freeing yourself from the idea of this "me," of this "I," of this ego, we have the presence of this Freedom, because Truth is present, then Love Blooms - Love in relations. You will never have Love in relations until you comprehend what this relation is. Our human relations are sustained within a pattern of images established by thought - this is how our relations are happening.
The image established by thought is the image I have about who I am; this is my self-image. The image I have in this relation is the image I have about who the other is. When we meet, this meeting is a meeting between images, it is the expectation I have of him and that he has of me, that I have of her and she has of me. This expectation is born from this lack, this pain; this expectation is born from this lack, this suffering, this dependency in the search for fulfillment in the other.
It is very common, the idea of finding love. Love is not something to be found, Love is what reveals itself at this instant; it is not something to be found in the future, in time. That's because we have never investigated this matter of time, then we speak of finding this in the future. There is no such thing as time. Time is an illusion.
We need time to build a house, we need time to take a course, to learn a profession. We need time to learn to sing, we need time to learn a technique. Here, time exists, it is chronological time, it is calendar time. Many hours of study, dedication, and commitment will give you that result. But there is no time for Love, there is no time for Happiness, there is no time for Freedom, there is no time for Peace, either this is present at this instant, or it will not be present. It is not something that is achieved in time, that will be established at some point in the future. There is no such thing as psychological time.
Psychological time is a fantasy created by thought. Thought created time; it is postponing when it creates this time. Thought, in you, says: "tomorrow I will be happy, tomorrow I will have peace." In the same way, thought says: "tomorrow I will start this diet," "tomorrow I will start exercising." What thought is saying is that it is not going to do any of that. What it is saying is that it is not going to reach peace tomorrow, it is not going to reach happiness tomorrow, it is not going to reach love tomorrow.
Deep,deep down, thought knows that Love has nothing to do with it, that Peace has nothing to do with its presence, Happiness has nothing to do with its presence, neither does exercising, nor starting a diet. Notice the game. Thought has created psychological time in order to postpone; it is assuming the place of action when it says "tomorrow," when it says "in the future," when it imagines what it will do.
Truth consists in the presence of action, and it is now. Love is now, Peace is now, Happiness is now, diet is now, exercise is here. Either there is the presence of exercise or there is no exercise happening now. Either we have the presence of diet at this instant or we don't have, at this instant, the diet; we have the imagination of the diet, the thought about the diet. Thought is not action, thought is postponement.
We live a deeply mistaken life, which is the life of thought.There is no life in thought.Thought in us is the presence of memory, it is the presence of what was, the presence of the past. It is the past projecting itself into the future in the imagination of exercising, in the imagination of peace, of love, in the imagination of losing weight, or the imagination of health. Thought imagines all things. Some things are good, and other things are bad. These bad things and good things are always from the perspective of thought itself, but it is still the presence of postponement, it is its presence.
Thus, people ask how to get rid of jealousy and insecurity, how to get rid of fear. It is always thought looking for a path, a formula, a method, a way to deal with it in the future. Notice how thought moves inside you. It speaks to you of the past and it speaks to you of the future. It has no awareness of this instant, or gives any value to this moment, all it does is take something from this moment to remember, to store, to record in the so-called past. All it does at this moment is project itself, again through thought, into the so-called future.
A life centered in thought is a life where we live in a world of abstraction, where we live in a world of imagination, which is the world of ideas, conclusions, opinions, and beliefs. We are not dealing with facts; we are dealing with idealisms, with plans, with dreams. "How to get rid of fear?" Coming into contact with this instant, with the experience of the fact, is something very different from having ideas about fear, imagination about fear, thoughts about fear, and how to get rid of fear.
Notice that, for example, this matter of fear is nothing other than thought within us. Here, at this instant, we are dealing with life as it happens. As it happens at this moment, we do not have the presence of thought; but for it to happen in the future, we need thought. Notice that all fear in us is explainable, justifiable, which becomes noticeable, which is shown due to the presence of thought.
What are you afraid of? Your wife. But what is a wife? It is a thought you have about her right now. You are afraid of your husband? But what is the husband? It is a thought you have about him right now. Your fear is of the future. It doesn't deal with what is here, at this instant. It deals with the psychological future. It deals with imagination. It deals with the past. It deals with the future. You are afraid of getting sick: that is the future. You are afraid of aging: that is the future. You are afraid of something you did in the past that will be discovered: you are afraid of the future based on the past.
It is always the presence of psychological time, which is thought. We are facing the illusion of time. Life is what is happening here, at this instant, and yet you are sustaining the illusion of a present identity, which is the "I," living in thought, living through thought, being the very thinker. But this thinker is the thought itself, because there is no such thing as the thinker when there is no thought. Once again, we are facing an abstraction, an illusion, a belief. This is the image that thought has established in you as being you. This self-image is the thinker. It is the thinker who wants to get rid of what it doesn't like and hold on to what it does like, what gives it pleasure.
Here, with you, we are discovering what it means to eliminate this thought, to eliminate this "I," this ego, this self-image, in order to come into contact with Life at this instant, free from fear, free from insecurity, free from jealousy, free from the illusion of loving and being loved based on a mental construction, a construction of thought. Contact with Life at this instant is contact with the Freedom of Being. Here we have the presence of Love now, of Happiness now, of Freedom now, of Peace now.
Life being accepted as it is, at this moment, does not require the presence of thought. We need technical thought to deal with things like performing a profession - there, thought is necessary. We need thought to build a house - there, time is also necessary. Technical thought is necessary in the form of knowledge and experience. Time is necessary to build a house, or take a course, or deal with things related to the calendar.
So, chronological time is present in our lives, but we don't need psychological time; we also don't need thought. I mean this psychological thought, this thought of images through which the sense of "I," the ego, is establishing and anchoring its own structure of identity in itself, and making the world a projection from it, and the other from it.
The Freedom to live within relations with the other without the model of thought is the Truth of the Revelation of Love. And if Love is present, there is no attachment; and if Love is present, there is no fear, no insecurity, no dependency, no jealousy. This encounter with the Reality of Life is an encounter with the Freedom of Love. And if it is present, that is the Truth of God. And it is when Love is present that God Reveals Himself, that Freedom is here, that Truth has blossomed.
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