In general, we use the word "love" in a connotation linked directly to the sensation of pleasure, to what can be associated more with attachment than with love.
Love doesn't know the search for fulfillment, the search for sensation, the search for satisfaction or personal accomplishment.
So, the sense of personhood in relationships is attachment, not Love.
Love isn't within this duality between pleasure and pain, between love and hate. Notice that relationships, as we know them, relationships between people, are all based exactly on this, on the search, on the quest, on the form, or in some way linked to this need for psychological fulfillment in relationships. And this is attachment, not Love.
In Love, there is no person. In Love, there are no conditions. What has been called "love" in ordinary relationships, in human relationships is all mixed, these relationships are mixed with pleasure and pain, with fulfillment and the search for fulfillment, or lack of fulfillment. So, it's a matter of a psychological need, of seeking satisfaction, accomplishment and one or another form of fulfillment.
This has nothing to do with Love. So, we can call it pleasure, we can call it affectivity, complicity, companionship, but when situation changes, this relationship suffers, it also changes.
So, every relationship of the mind is always a relationship of objects. It's always the relationship of fulfillment. It's always the relationship of the accomplishment of satisfaction.
And when we talk about Love, we're talking about something timeless, something beyond mind, beyond this condition. Then, Love is always impersonal. Love is always unconditional. Love doesn't see objects. Love doesn't exist in an egoic relationship.
When Love is present, ego isn't present. When the Truth of Love flourishes and is present, there is no conflict, there is no suffering, and there is no attachment.
Therefore, Love isn't attachment. Love is something completely different from everything mind knows.
Is it possible to know what Love is?
Yes. The answer is yes, but Love can only be entirely known when the mind isn't present, when the egoic mind isn't involved. That's when we are indeed before Real Love. Otherwise, what we have, and this is very common, is this relationship based on attachment, the basis of conflict, the basis of suffering, the basis of fear.
When there is Love, there is no fear. Love doesn't lose. Love doesn't suffer because of separation. Love doesn't suffer. Love is Love! When there is Love, there is no suffering. So, Love is something completely different from what we know as "love."
Love is completely different from attachment, desire, and fear.
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