The question is: how to be happy? Here we are before a very interesting question. After all, what does happiness mean to you? Because, in general, people ask: “How to be happy?” We have an image, a concept, and an idea about what it means to be happy, and for most people, being happy involves moments of pleasure, satisfaction, or accomplishment on some level.
So, when we touch on the issue of happiness here, perhaps we are talking about something else. Here, we are signaling, pointing out to you What we consider Real Happiness and Real Happiness are not happy moments. For most people, to be happy or to know happiness is to have moments of pleasure, satisfaction, fulfillment, gratification, or accomplishment on some level. Then, at the moment of this accomplishment, there is this so-called moment of “happiness.” For most people, happiness consists of having happy moments, so people ask: “How to be happy?” They identify happiness with these moments.
Here we are working with you on the end of the illusion of this sense of “someone” being present, which represents something entirely different from “being happy.” That means the end of suffering, psychological suffering, egoic suffering, or the identity of an “I” present in suffering. So, the end of suffering is the end of the “I.” In my viewpoint, this is Real Happiness. It is not something that comes and goes that appears here and now and then goes away – as it happens with happy moments.
Yes, you are happy on your wedding day. Yes, you are happy when your first child is born, when you buy your first car, when you win the lottery, and when you become a millionaire, you are happy. Now, in no one of these moments, you do have the Reality of Happiness precisely because at those moments, you are happy, and the next moment, you are not anymore.
Happiness is the Nature of Being, the Nature of your True Consciousness. Your Real Consciousness is Happiness. So, how do the Sages deal with this? How do the Sages treat this issue of Happiness? In the vision of the Sages, Happiness is not a state that comes and goes; it is the Nature of Being that is beyond these states we know.
The states we know are within – all of them – the known, within the experience for the one who experiences. While the one who experiences is present in this given experience, if it is of pleasure, joy, fulfillment, satisfaction, or accomplishment, then, yes, there is at that instant a happy moment. But we are dealing with something known, within time, a time already recognized by the experiencer.
Notice that the pursuit of desires is rooted in the pursuit of this so-called “happiness,” this so-called “ordinary happiness,” or this “common happiness.” So, people are on a search for happiness, so much so that they also ask: “How to find that happiness?” because, for them, it is something they can find; it is just a matter of time, planning, effort, and work and they will achieve it at some point.
In this way, we are continually dealing with the aspect of what is known, which is the happiness that the experiencer – who is the “I” – can recognize; we always deal with this factor, which is the factor of time for the accomplishment of this, for the execution of this. That is always the sense of an “I” present in the experience of this so-called “happiness.”
Human beings, yes, search for something beyond this condition of routine, repetition, boredom, and continuity that life is. However, they are looking for this within sensations, new experiences – experiences of pleasure, experiences of fulfillment.
Here is where we come across a misunderstanding because, no matter how great these achievements, satisfactions, or pleasures that come from these experiences are, it is something for this “I,” which is the experiencer, the ego; something found and recognized by the “I” itself, so it is something that is part of what it already carries within it, as a project of personal fulfillment. Then, that cannot be happiness. It results in moments of pleasure, in happy moments.
What is the truth about Happiness? Happiness is What is, by nature, immutable. Thus, we are no longer talking about pleasure, sensation, or experience; it cannot be something in time recognized by that “I,” that experiencer. So, for the question “How to be happy?” We need to understand, first and foremost, what it means To Be. Because if our idea is to be happy in states where the “I,” the experiencer is, we will always be within this condition of living experiences of pleasure, satisfaction, and accomplishment.
Another curious aspect of this issue, of this so-called “happiness” that the “I,” the experiencer knows, is that it carries another side. All accomplishment, fulfillment, and pleasure, as it is something happening in time and sought by the “I,” still hides dissatisfaction, incompleteness, an absence, a lack; so we seek this because of desire, which is suffering.
Another aspect of the encounter with this so-called “happiness” is that the other side of this pleasure is the pain, and we already bring them together for this experience. So, this “I,” this ego in its dissatisfaction, finds satisfaction; this “I,” this ego in its pain, finds pleasure; in its state of restlessness, finds something that momentarily calms it, but it is something sought by the “I,” by the ego itself, so this cannot be Real.
This pleasure still carries its opposite, which is pain. This fulfillment still brings the opposite, which is this lack. So, notice how simple this is. There will never be full satisfaction in the ego because it is the dissatisfaction of the experience in its own satisfaction. There will never be eternal pleasure in the “I,” in the ego because it is the pain of the experiencer, the pain of pleasure in the experience. All this needs to be investigated and understood.
Then, we can discover the Nature of Being, the Nature of the Truth about who we are, and thus realize Real Happiness. So, our goal together is to go deeper into this with you. We can only verify the Truth of Happiness when we have the correct basis for it, and it is the Revelation of the Truth of this one who wants to be happy, who is looking for happiness and asking how to find happiness.
Another word that could very well replace the word “happiness,” once we understand what it really means, is the word “love.” Notice that we do not know what love is either. In our relationships, we have satisfaction, pleasure, kindness, care, and affection; all of this is present in our relationships with the “loved one,” but the “loved one” is here as an ideal we seek, at some point search for, and what we pursuit and find to be an ideal of ourselves, of that “I” itself, is still part of that sense of ego-identity, part of that sense of separateness.
In this encounter, we call it “love” because that is the name we know for this affection, this care; however, it carries, along with all these words, dependence, neediness, the suffering of not being able to have more, to see more and feel more the other, their presence, their attention and also their affection from there to here, their care from there to here. So, there is this game, in fact, of mutual emotional, sentimental, and psychological dependence, and we call this “love.” That is what we know in our human relationships, in those precious moments we call “love.”
We write poetries and books; we compose lyrics; we put music to these lyrics, always talking about this “love” I feel for the other. We do not see the hidden game in this. The sense of a present “I” that fulfills itself on this contact, that depends on this contact, suffers if this contact despises, ignores, or does not give any relevance to it..
So, what we have within this so-called “love” is mutual dependence. When there is deception, some form of lie – which happens very easily in relationships between egos amid people – then jealousy, spite, fear, aggression, violence, mental violence, verbal violence, and even physical violence arise. This so-called “love” is embedded in conflict.
So, in this so-called “love,” we have the presence of suffering. Suffering prevails in this so-called “love,” so this is not Love. The truth is that we do not know what Happiness is and what Love is either, and we are looking for both in our own way, externally, from the outside. Without a direct understanding of the Truth about who we are, we believe we can find it from the outside.
So, what are we seeing here together? We are investigating the Nature of the Truth about who we are, the Nature of God, Happiness, and Love. If this is found here, in the relationship with the other, Love is present, but there is no more mutual dependence, attachment, fear, or suffering.
If Love is here, your life has that fragrance, that perfume, that beauty. If Happiness is here, it no longer depends on situations or circumstances; it is not something that changes, that happens because of an external accomplishment, an encounter with something outside. Happiness is something present now. It is no longer the search for pleasure, fulfillment, and satisfaction. All right?
That is what we are working on here with you. That is possible when there is the Awakening of Consciousness or Spiritual Enlightenment. There are many different names for this, but it is the end of the “I,” the Realization of your Being, the Realization of God.
We work on it here on the channel, and we also have weekend meetings. I'd like to invite you to take a closer look, to work with us on weekends. We have online meetings, and the link is in the video description. You can join our group and find out more about these meetings. In addition, we have face-to-face meetings and retreats where we work on this with you. Here is the invitation, and let us Realize this Truth of Real Happiness and Real Love in our lives, OK?
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