I want to touch on this issue of relationships with you here. When we talk about human relations, we are basically talking about relationships. There is something very interesting here, in this issue of relationships. Note, a relationship is quite possible when there is real contact, real communion. In reality, the presence of Love is what determines the truth of a relationship. Now, look at this condition in which we, as human beings, find ourselves within relations, these human relations, and answer me: is this exactly what we find? You see, what we actually find in these human relations is not the truth of relation. The presence of relation is a contact, it is a contact of the heart, it is a contact of the mind, it is a contact of feelings, of emotions, it is a contact on all levels. A real contact, where we have the presence of communion, we have the presence of a true relation. And that is not what happens. We do not have a real relation with the world around us, with people around us. With the world around us, it is the relation with objects, with situations, with events; with people is what we call a "relationship," but we are unaware of it.
Here, with you, we are working on this issue of the beauty of this encounter with the Truth of the relation. It is something that becomes possible when we have the presence of Truth in this contact, and we are unaware of this. What is the Truth that should be present and yet is not present within this relation, within these human relationships, within these human relations? The Truth is the Divine Truth. Here we are, with you, showing you that, yes, in life it is possible to discover a contact with him or her, with people around you. A contact free from all this activity of the "I," from all this pattern of egocentric behavior, which, when present, separates us, divides us. This division creates problems, this division creates confusion, creates disorder. And why does this happen? Because what is present in these encounters, in these contacts, is the presence of an element that should not be occupying a certain place and yet it is there. I refer to the presence of thought.
Notice that when you are in contact, at a certain level in this contact with him or her, thought becomes needed. When, for example, we talk, we have to use words, so we have the presence of thought. We then have an intellectual activity involved in this conversation. Note, at this level we have the presence of thought, something very simple and natural, and yet, this conversation can have the inclination of the continuity of this sense of "I," of the ego, of this element in us that comes from the past, seeking to superimpose on something as simple as a dialogue power, pride, presumption, vanity, the exercise of control over the other. So, we have the sense of "I," of the ego, present in this conversation, in this dialogue, and if this is present, there is no longer this contact of real relation, of real encounter, of real communion. And this is how, in general, we have established our relationship lives: we are constantly in contact with the other, with life, imposing our desires, motives, reasons. Something purely egocentric.
Here, with you, we are investigating what a Real life means, therefore, a Divine life, where we have the presence of Real Intelligence, which is the Intelligence of God, to deal with others. We cannot deal with others based on thought. Note that this is exactly what we have been doing in these contacts, we are placing thought element as the most important element in our relations. The most important element in the relation is the presence of complicity, it is the presence of Intelligence, it is the presence of Love. However, we are unaware of this because we are living in the ego, living in the "I." We are living within a sense of self-centeredness and, therefore, of isolationism, something purely egocentric. My contact with you is a contact based on thought.
See, we are here investigating the truth about who we are; this is what makes us perceive this behavior present in each one of us, which has as its principle this model of activity pattern, an activity that generates conflict, that generates contradiction, that generates suffering, an activity that is born from the thinker, from this element that is this "me", this "I." To realize this, to become aware of this, is to work towards the end of this condition so that, in fact, there can be between us, as human beings, something beyond the relation between people. What are these relations between people? They are relations that are based on thought, it is the thought that "I" have about you and it is the thought that you have about "me." The thought that "I have" about "me," notice, is an image that thought itself has constructed about who I am. The thought that you have about yourself is an image that thought has constructed about who you are. We do not know the importance of the contact of communion, of the contact of Love, and here the question arises: How does this become possible? And what is this contact, in fact? Since our contact is a contact in separation, in division, in conflict; since our contact is a contact that is based on thought. Thought is the element, in you, of error.
So, here we have the possibility of contact with the other based on this possible communion and Love, when we have the presence of Silence, of a mind free from all this background, from all this pattern of egocentric behavior; or we have this behavior. This behavior is the behavior that arises from this thought that comes from the past. When "I" come into contact with you, "my" contact with you has as its principle all the memory that "I" bring about who you are. But this memory, note, about who you are, is something that the thought in "me" imagines about you. Thus, everything that I went through with you, experienced with you in the last two days, in the last two years, in the last twenty years, is what is present at this moment when I meet you. So, what I am doing is just projecting an image that I have about you in this relation, in this relationship. Then, there is no true relation, and this relationship is the relationship between images. This is because you do the same in this meeting with me.
It is very common a mistaken contact within relationships, because there are some things that "I" like about you and others that "I" don't like about you. The things that "I" like about you are the things that "I" appreciate based on my personal, particular sense of liking. See, this has nothing to do with you, it has to do with how "I" get in touch with you based on the vision that "I" have, that "I" expect, that "I" await, that "I" desire about you, and vice-versa. Note, this subject here is the subject of self-image. In psychology, this has already been discussed. However, we remain in a very superficial sphere when we theorize about this, without a real comprehension of what it means, of the implications present in this psychological condition of existing as someone, as being this self-image. Can we discover life happening in this moment, in this relationship, within a true relation where this contact is the simple contact where we have this Communion and this Love present? Because, notice, unless this is present, we as human beings will continue not only to suffer, but to give continuity to all of this. Thus, we will only be maintaining this old condition in which, as human beings, we have been living for tens, hundreds, thousands of years.
Contact with life is contact with Love. We do not know what Love is; what we know is self-interest, self-centeredness, isolated life. The husband is interested in his own things, the wife is interested in her own things. So, they meet - the husband meets with the wife, the wife meets the husband - but each one is living in one's own particular egocentric world, in this isolationism and personal self-interest. Then, this contact is not the contact of Love, it is not the contact of communion. We live making arrangements, adjustments, because of the mutual interests we have. As long as these interests are sufficiently attended within this relationship, this relation continues. When there is a divergence - and this is very clear to the point of a somewhat violent, aggressive contradiction - separation occurs. So, we do not know the Truth about Love. Love is that which is present when we have the presence of Silence, and it is in this Reality of Silence that the Truth of a relation is where Love is present.
So, in life, we need to go beyond this psychological condition of isolationism in the "I," in the ego. If this is present, as human beings we are in psychological suffering. Note how important it is to investigate this: if you are suffering psychologically, if you carry some level of psychological suffering, anxiety, depression, anguish, stress, nervousness, fear. What we have present is a confused, psychological state, in disorder, we do not have the presence of Love. Then, human beings relate to each other living in states of this type, and these relations are not real relations, because what is present is the model of thought, of this thought of the "I," of this egoic consciousness, of this egocentric consciousness. We have dealt with all of this here, on this channel. We have hundreds of videos delving into these subjects here, with you.
So, becoming aware of the reality about yourself is eliminating this psychic suffering. This is possible when you learn about Self-Awareness. What is this learning about Self-Awareness? It is discovering what it is to look at your reactions, and when you learn to look at all of this, it vanishes. Then, we have the end of fear, the end of anxiety, depression, anguish, worry, envy, we have the end of stress. Thus, we have, at this moment, a new state of presence, of consciousness here, not this old consciousness of the "I," not this state of egocentric isolationism, where we are living based on thoughts, sustaining images of people, sustaining images about ourselves. All of this is part of the movement of the "I," of the ego. The elimination of this is possible in this learning about Self-Awareness, in this learning about ourselves.
We have a playlist here on the channel about learning about Self-Awareness, about this issue of psychic suffering, about what is the truth of this self-image, which this sense of "I" sustains. The elimination of this is the beginning of something new, it is the presence of God, it is the presence of your Being. It is when we truly know the beauty of relations. It is the Truth of a Divine relation, it is the Truth of a relation of God, it is the presence of your Being, it is the presence of Truth. So, we can have direct, simple contact, without this involvement of the sense of ego - as was mentioned at the beginning of the speech - for example, within a conversation. A free mind requires a quiet brain, where we have the presence of this Silence, and something present within this vision, in this contact with him or her, which is the absence of self-image.
Looking at the world without thought, dealing with others without thought. I refer to this conditioned thinking, this thinking that sustains, in its self-interest, this egocentric isolationism. Contact with the Reality of life is contact with Wisdom, it is contact with Truth, it is contact with God. This is communion with him or her; however, this is something that is present only when the sense of "I" is not there. These meetings here on weekends, Saturdays and Sundays, are for this purpose. Here is the WhatsApp link to participate in these meetings on weekends, where we spend two days together delving deeper into this. In addition to these online meetings, we have in-person meetings and also retreats. Therefore, if this is something that makes sense to you, here is an invitation. Go ahead and leave your "like," subscribe to the channel and please, write a comment here: "Yes, that makes sense." Ok? And we will see each other! Thanks for the meeting and see you next time.
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