March 4, 2023

The approach to Self-awareness | Psychological suffering | Self-discipline of self-observation

It’s just that, in general, human beings don't have – this is the truth – they don't have a love for Freedom. First, they’re not aware of the possibility of this Freedom; after they become aware of it because they have read something, heard something, or believe they have learned something about this subject, which is the subject of Self-realization...

What I have realized is that they – we, human beings – have no love for Freedom. So, we even find this possibility interesting, but we think it’s like... something that, for some reason, doesn't touch us so deeply. There are very few people who have this real yearning, a real longing for Freedom. So, there’s no love for Freedom and it seems to me that when we deal with Self-realization, the main element is that you internally burn for it, be burning for it. Few people are burning for it.

What human beings want is convenient freedom. This convenient freedom is a kind of temporary refuge from your contradictions, conflicts, fears, your diverse and innumerable fears. So, humans don't really want it, because they don't love their freedom. Stressed, anxious, depressed, worried, afflicted, in the pain of envy and jealousy, but they’re not willing to deal with it. They are not willing to deal with it.

In fact, they don't even name the state for themselves, they start naming it only when the internal frame of pain is very, very strong. Then, they start repeating what their doctor told them about their condition: “Look, this is anxiety,” “This is depression,” “This is loneliness,” “This is a phobia,” “This is...” Then, they begin to name, but at first, not even that. What humans seek is a temporary refuge from a psychological crisis, from psychological suffering. Why? Because they don't really love their Freedom. So, even knowing this is possible, they can’t trust it and neither have their commitment nor real interest in it. Hence, few people love Freedom.

So, among the seekers, we find a few – among many seekers – a few who really want because they are burning for This, applying themselves to this Freedom, after all, they carry that element of love. And the sign of that element is burning for This, and when you are really burning for This, you naturally develop self-discipline.

Note the word discipline here. I’ve used that word, but I’ve found that it’s also very misunderstood. For us, discipline is something you are obliged to or oblige yourself to. So, when one uses the expression discipline, the idea you have is to force yourself to do what you don't want to do or do it quickly to finish it soon, or don’t do or find a way to not do it. So, there’s this issue of discipline, of forcing yourself, obliging yourself. However, when there’s this love for Freedom, something very natural appears within you, a real self-discipline. It’s not a matter of forcing yourself to do it, forcing this, forcing yourself to do this. It’s simply the joy of investigating the Truth about who you are: this is the love of Freedom.

So, it seems to me this is a very important point, here, to talk to you. The beauty of this approach to Self-awareness is that, little by little, this shows itself to you – as you approach – This shows to you and awakes in you a joy that is the joy of Self-discovery. When you clearly see the power there is, for example, in this self-observation, the joy this brings, this awakens in you this love for Freedom. And as you approach this, this starts to burn more and more.

So, what I share with you is from my experience. I'm not theorizing here. I'm not a theorist about Self-realization, about Spiritual Enlightenment. I didn't propose to share this in these speeches, these face-to-face meetings, or here in these videos, speaking from theory. Self-realization is you in your Being when This settles, and from there on you speak, you share or not. I have this joy of sharing, so that’s what I do. And what I say is not theoretical, [but rather] it’s based on this experience.

As you approach this Self-discovery – and Self-discovery requires Self-awareness… It’s not self-knowledge according to the latest psychology book by Doctor So-and-so; it’s not the self-awareness you heard the expression “self-knowledge there in your psychiatrist’s office, your psychologist – he uses the expression a lot – it’s not this self-knowledge we're talking about here; I don't know what you also understand by self-awareness. “Oh, I read a book about that,” “No, I read eight books about that.” Ok… and so? That’s exactly what I'm saying: self-awareness written in a book, you open a dictionary and you have the description of the word self-awareness. You Google it and there is the description of the word self-awareness. That’s not what we're talking about.

I'm talking about Self-Awareness, which is the Real Recognition of your fears, desires, contradictions, conflicts, and the different fears you hide from everybody, but never from yourself. I'm talking about the absence of this understanding of all this psychological movement that prevents you, for example, from relating intelligently with your wife, husband, children, employees, your employees, or your boss.

So, is your job stressful? No, it’s not your job that’s stressful, you're stressed; it’s not your job that stresses you out. There are people at your work doing the same thing as you without any level of stress. “Ah, but I can't find it.” With your eyes, you’ll never find it. You have to have eyes to see who is unstressed and when you are stressed you can’t see it, you’ll only see yourself always, everywhere.

So, the point is, one doesn’t come closer to the Truth since there’s no Self-Awareness. You need to understand yourself. Then, the illusion about who You are disappears in the joy of this discipline, this self-discipline born from self-observation, which is the result of Self-Awareness. Notice what I'm saying: Self-Awareness… Without Self-Awareness, there’s no minimum basis for the Awakening of Meditation. You have to awaken for Meditation. So, as there’s no love for Freedom, you don’t know, nor are you interested in Meditation or, at most, you apply what I’ve called therapeutic meditation – that meditation which, in fact, has a function of psychological treatment. The different meditation techniques: meditation for sleep, for stress, anxiety, help, help for depression, the various searches for meditation techniques that, in general, people look for are temporary refuges for states of crisis, which works only as a therapeutic meditation practice of self-hypnosis, self-hypnosis. And self-hypnosis, in itself, is not simple at all. It still requires discipline, which is the discipline that people in the crisis oblige themselves to do.

And here I talk about something completely different from that, I talk about the True Meditation born from that spontaneous and natural joy of self-discipline of seeing oneself, observing oneself, having the joy of understanding oneself, and, with that, This is born. In that joy, the end of stress, anxiety, and the various forms of fear, and you have joy in that self-inquiry, in that self-investigation, in that self-observation.

This is the way to get closer to What we are. The real way to approach What we are is through the love for Freedom. The love for Freedom will give you the awareness of this psychological mechanism and how you function. You don't have to understand how your wife, your husband, your boss, and your employees function to not be anxious, stressed, or nervous with them. To be in a healthy, intelligent, beautiful relationship with others, all you need is to understand what is going on inside you. So, understanding this mind mechanism, understanding yourself… That’s when it is possible for a new mind to arise.

This condition of the dualistic mind, where there’s you and the world that must revolve around you for you to be happy… The famous expression “egocentrism” – I don't know what meaning they give to that, but I understand egocentrism as the ego in the center of the experience. Then, it disappears, this positioning of someone present is very, very factual, very real, very present in the life of this “me,” this ego. Everything has to revolve around you for you to be fine. It’s so crazy, so insane that when someone looks at you, a thought already tells you inside your head: “Oh, he doesn't like you, he doesn't want to see you, and he doesn't like you:” that’s madness!

So, there are several internal stages of insanity within each one of us that we don't realize and we start to realize based on Self-awareness. This self-observation begins to show you this and, it’s a joy, this discipline born from this love of self-observation, of abandoning this psychological dependence, this emotional dependence on how someone looks at me, what they are saying, thinking about me.

Guys, how can you know what people are thinking about you? How can you tell by looking at someone what their gaze represents? What does their countenance represent? But your mind produces it. This is egocentrism, the sense of a present “I” wanting the world to be the way it projects.

So, Self-awareness, folks, is the basis for breaking this down. It’s not psychology, not psychology, it’s Self-realization. The subject here isn’t philosophy, it is Self-realization. The issue here is “who am I?” It’s not who the other is, what the world is, who God is, or what life is. We leave this… we leave these questions to philosophers or to those who, within psychology, want to explain this insane thing that the egoic mind is, for this proposal of ideas that thought has affirmed over millennia about life. We leave all that aside, look inside ourselves and discard the sense of separateness, put an end to the ego, here and now, in this Direct Observation, without the sense of separateness.

Here, I've been talking to you about how we do this, eliminating duality, the observer, the thinker, the idea of someone who judges, compares, evaluates, analyzes, understands, or thinks he knows, we abandon that. This self-abandonment is the mind abandoning itself, letting go, and detaching from itself. The egoic mind acting, exposing itself and therefore dissolving into this Intelligence, into this Consciousness, into this Non-Dual Truth: That is Meditation.

Therefore, that’s the point here: looking at What we are, this self-observation – I want to expand on this – this self-observation requires this love for Freedom. Without this, there’s no Self-awareness, and without Self-awareness there’s no True Meditation. At most [there are] expedients as a refuge for you to temporarily and psychologically relax, exhaling in a certain way, feeling a certain peace, a certain bliss, listening to music, chanting a mantra… and after that, the child screams, the husband complains, the wife curses, the boss is rude, the employees don't want to obey, and the stress, the nervousness, and the various forms of worries are present… all because of an illusory identity that wants to fix the world, to make the world something for it to be happy, to be fine. And it’s just itself. The interest of everything is only itself. It, by itself and for itself. We abandon all of that if there is this Love for Truth, this Love for Freedom.

OK? That’s it

February, 2023
Gravatá-PE, Brazil
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