Here, the question is: "How is this issue of psychic suffering, which is the basis for this human suffering, established?" When you have physical pain, you have a very specific pain; it is a pain in your foot, a pain in your hand, in some organ of the body, this is physical pain. But there is a difference between this physical pain and this human suffering, which is psychological suffering. Where is this issue of psychic suffering established? When do you suffer?
We know what human suffering is; every human being has been going through suffering since birth. When you feel hungry, when you are still a baby, and you cry, your mother attends to you; the hunger disappears and so do the tears. But what about this issue of psychic suffering? Is there someone to wipe away these tears? Or is this idea of ??someone looking for consolation, comfort, encouragement? While, in reality, pain still continues.
We can be consoled, comforted and encouraged, and yet pain will continue until we learn to deal with this issue, which is the issue of time. See how interesting this issue of time is. When someone leaves, disappears and I don't see that person anymore, and I loved that person, there is pain here. Why does this pain arise when one leaves? Is it because one actually left or is this pain present and I don't realize it?
Even when the person is there, there is a level of separation, of division between me and one. In this division, in this separation, something is established that I am not aware of, it is the presence of some form of dependence, of a search for fulfillment in him or her. That is why, when one leaves, the pain is not because one left, it is because at that moment came the awareness, the clarity, the realization of the presence of this lack, this need, this pain.
See how important it is for us to investigate all these issues in depth. Suffering is something present in human beings. When a loved one dies, he disappears, and you cry not because he died, you cry because pain is present in you because of the lackness he causes you, and he causes you a lack because, psychologically, there is a need there that is not being fulfilled.
We call what we feel for the other person love, but, in reality, what is the truth about Love? We do not know Love! But, in reality, what is Love? Is love that which creates a facilitation for a void and in that void the presence of pain? Is love the presence of pain in the absence of the other person? Or is this absence of the other person, which is the reason for the pain, that which indicates an unfulfilled psychological need? When I have a psychological need and it is not fulfilled, there is pain; this psychological need is not love.
We do not know the Truth of Love. Love is a presence of completeness, it is not an absence, it is not a lack, it is not a psychological need, that when satisfied, when fulfilled, makes me happy, makes me fulfilled. Being filled with the presence of the other is not being in Love, it is being filled psychologically, because the other accepts me, understands me, gives me pleasure, brings me some compensation, and vice versa. This is what we generally call love in our relations.
Can we investigate this in depth to go beyond this issue of psychic suffering? When I feel jealous, when I feel the lack, when I feel abandoned, rejected, not accepted by someone I say I love, who I feel I love, what is this relation that I have with him or her? If there is the presence of jealousy, neediness, dependence, is this the presence of love? Or what is there within this relation is pleasure, satisfaction, fulfillment?
All of this needs to be investigated, we need to discover the Truth of Love, the Truth of your Being, the Truth of God, the Truth about Life. The Truth of the Love of this Being, of God and of Life is something that is present when the illusion of this "I," this ego, this "me," is not. Every form of psychological suffering, psychic suffering and emotional disorder in us is the presence of thought about things, about people, about myself. The way I deal with the present moment in this experience, in this relation, something determined by thought present in this "me," is sustaining this psychological condition of attachment, dependence, psychological need and, therefore, naturally, of suffering.
So, unless there is a real understanding of what is happening here, inside each one of us, unless it is clear how to deal with these thoughts. Because it is these thoughts present here, inside each one of us, that are determining this model of life that we have. So, the question is: "How to deal with thoughts?" The vision that I have of him or her is the vision that thought here affirms, concludes, believes, feels, witnesses, expects, thought is cultivating all of this here, inside each one of us.
When you feel rejected, it is thought that tells you so, thought that tells you about this rejection. Who is the present element that feels rejected within a relation? Your answer is simple: it is the person. But what is the truth of the person? Who are you as a person? You have an idea of ??who you are, a model of being someone as you believe yourself to be, that is the person; the person as you see yourself, the person you believe yourself to be, is the one who feels rejection, feels abandonment in the relation with the other.
So, the sense of "I" present here is a set of images that I have about who I am and also about who the other is, and this is creating this separation between me and him, me and her. This is giving this "me", here, an idea of ??what to expect, of what to expect from him or her, and thus the life of the person, of thought, is established. We do not know how to deal with thought, we do not know how to deal with the person, with the person that he or she is, with the person that I am.
What is present in these relations are relations that are based on thought, on the way each person represents who the other is. This representation of him or her, this representation of what I am to him or her is what is determining our relations. When our contacts, when our relations are based on the model of thought, these relations are structured on past experiences. We are not dealing with the past, we are dealing with life. Life is a movement that is present here, at this moment.
We are always dealing with something dynamic, of extraordinary vivacity, which is the presence of this person. The person that we are is something that is changing at every moment; at every moment we are having new impressions of the present moment and reacting to these impressions based on this structure, which is the structure of the experiencer. Thus, all this dynamism and vivacity of this "I" needs to be seen, needs to be understood.
Now, notice what a delicate thing is here: in this contact with the other, the other also carries this vivacity, this dynamism; as a person, he or she is never the same person. She is not aware of herself and we are not aware of ourselves, and yet we are within this encounter, this relation. Thus, disorder is established, confusion is established.
Unless you understand the truth about yourself, learn about yourself and go beyond this "I," this "me," this ego and therefore this vivacity and this dynamism, this illusory entity, which is the ego, unless this is resolved, this life centered on this false identity will be constantly in contact with the other, creating disorder, creating confusion. We are not dealing with Real Life, we are dealing with a model of psychological identity, which is constantly in movement between this past, present and future; and this movement is the movement of psychological time. This is how, internally, this dynamism and vivacity of the ego takes place.
We are constantly involved in our psychological world, in our particular life, which is the life centered on the "I," and so it is with the other. We do not have real contact in our relations; they are based on models of thought, where we have the illusion of a relation where love, comprehension, freedom, peace, and happiness are present, while in reality, when we look closely, we realize that all of this is completely imaginary.
Thus, we are constantly maintaining the continuity of a life centered on the model of thought, and all I have of the person I live with and he has of me are images, a game between images, a game between beliefs, ideas, evaluations, conclusions, opinions. This is what we have called a relation. What is present is a level of relationship where thought is the predominant element. We are not living the Truth of comprehension, Freedom, Peace, and Love in our relations. This explains all this psychic suffering, all this disorder and confusion in life, in this particular life of the "I."
Contact with this moment is what reveals Life when thought is not. However, when thought is present, and this has been the case in our lives, there is no truth within these relations. What brings us closer to the real vision of Love, the real vision of Happiness, of Freedom? It is the presence of Self-awareness.
Once we have discarded this illusory identity, once we have a direct comprehension of the Truth of That which is present beyond the "I," beyond the ego, beyond this person and, therefore, beyond thought, this Truth reveals Happiness. Then, there is the end of this psychological condition, which is the condition of suffering.
You were born to realize God in this life, to realize the Truth of your Being. This comprehension is the comprehension of the other, because, in reality, the other does not exist, there is a single Reality present in this contact, in this true relation, in this true communion. And this is something present when you assume the Reality of That which is You in your Real Nature, in your Essential Nature - this is what some call God Realization, Enlightenment or Awakening.
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